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Life is a series of choices, what you choose has brought you to today, and brought you here.
And it also means, you are not here by coincidence, you’re here by choice, and I am glad that you made it!
Since life is a series of choices, how your life looks right now reflects how you made decisions in the past when you were in charge.
‘Whatever we focus on, expands
What do you choose to expand, today? @iamriavananh
Let me expand the perspective on very important thought process, right here, right now.
When an unexpected situation/ event happen, there are 2 types of thoughts come up:
What I want others to do for me (External Locus of Control).
What I can do to handle this situation and continue to live my life wholeheartedly (Internal Locus of Control).
Let me make it clearer with an this example:
Imagine when an unexpected situation/ event happens, 2 types of thoughts can pop up:
Stage 1: Whose fault is this? What’s wrong with that person? They needed to fix this for me, they were wrong; What can I do to make them admit they were wrong, apologize and fix this?.. I need this .. to happen to really feel at peace..
And
Stage 2: What is this all about? If this is teaching me a lesson, what would it be? What’s the meaning behind this connection and this incident? What is the lesson I need to learn? What I can do to handle this situation so that I can move on? I want to move forward.. What qualities are required in me to cultivate, in order to navigate this challenging situation?
When you move from stage 1 to stage 2, it called shifting your focus. Some people take just a few minutes to shift their focus; some people need to go haft way, waiting for someone handle the situation before realizing it, and some remain stuck in stage 1 even the situation is long over.
Stage 1 is the stage draining your energy the most, the more you stay in it, the more tired, exhausted and stressed you will feel.
Stage 2 is the stage of owning your own path, persistence and freedom.
And of course, the quicker you can realize you in stage 1 and move to stage 2, the quicker and closer you get to your true freedom.
You’re the author of your own life.
You’re the person who defines your own values.
Through every storm, anchor yourself in your core values compass,
Put in the effort, let your energy & results speak for themselves. @iamriavananh
A warm welcome to you!
And an especially warm welcome to all wanderers, searching everywhere for a sense of belonging. I see you. And I am glad you’re here.
Now, let me give you a mini-tour!
You can take a tour and come back here,..
or you might never leave.. 😉
If you are feeling warm, relaxed, and motivated, I am glad.
If you want to leave me a note, feel welcome here.
Let’s stay in touch!
And see you soon!
Sending you a good vibe: Live more & Love more – Cat Burns
Since I’ve gotten older
i’ve realised
we all care about things that don’t really matter
we’re just told it does
and now we’re all tryna to keep our head above the water
but what if we don’t wanna?
if there’s something you wanna do
just do it
don’t let your head stop your heart from moving
if there’s someone you wanna talk to
talk to them
who knows who we’d be if we just
live more & love more
we all just need to
live more & love more
when we’re not here anymore
it all comes down to who we were and what we stood for
not what we had and not where we lived
so when we’re told it does
maybe then we’ll see
we don’t just have to keep our heads above the water
not if we don’t wanna
..